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    Posted: 11 Feb 2019 at 3:06pm
Originally posted by chrissie0707 chrissie0707 wrote:

 

It's so interesting - I've noticed a lot of my friends have one "letter" in their type that they waver on, depending on the day, situation, etc. For me, it's the T/F. I am at heart an INFJ, but if someone near me is getting TOO emotional or having an energy level that is just too much for me, I go full INTJ, and switch the "feeling" lever off so I don't become overwhelmed by another person's emotions.


It's an aspect of the test/results that I think bears more PR.  It seems common, and yet rarely a rel discussion topic.  Almost everyone I know has a 'waver' element - and it's always consistent:  three solid foundations and a 4th that hovers at the borderline.  

Have to admit, I don't "see" my hover in the day to day as clearly as you do, Chrissie - great self-awareness! :)


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Originally posted by nixie nixie wrote:

Lots of folks who are 'borderline' swing back and forth across the line on the test depending on day and mood (mine is a constant wiggle between INTJ and ISTJ - not a broad range, i just fall a little to one side or the other of the centerline depending on the day). So now I am curious whether you changed a behavior, modified what's generally considered a wired-in stimulus response, or "were centerline on the stimulus, and changed an associated but falsely-linked behavior").  


It's so interesting - I've noticed a lot of my friends have one "letter" in their type that they waver on, depending on the day, situation, etc. For me, it's the T/F. I am at heart an INFJ, but if someone near me is getting TOO emotional or having an energy level that is just too much for me, I go full INTJ, and switch the "feeling" lever off so I don't become overwhelmed by another person's emotions.

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Originally posted by northernwriter northernwriter wrote:

Extrovert here!

I used to be an introvert and I know they say people can't change. But I trained myself to go and talk to people - now I love it and thrive on hearing their stories and chatting them up!

I was INFP. Now I'm ENFP.

Westerners seem to have this idea that an introvert can't be gregarious - Americans, especially, since we lionize the gregarious extrovert as the only valid/successful personality type.  Introversion and extroversion are not about shyness, or gregariousness - those words are commonly misused and treated as the same thing. At heart, they are about stimulus levels.

An introvert gets stressed when the number of simultaneous stimuli rises above a certain level. An extrovert stresses when they drop below a certain level.  So the introvert 'recharges" by getting away from things, while the extrovert recharges and is energized by increasing the number of things they are interacting with (party with lots of friends, out to the pub to hang with the lads, etc.)

I congratulate you on training out of a behavior that you felt wasn't serving you - it's a *hard* thing to do!  I also wonder whether that was a change from introversion to extroversion, or whether our muddled definitions just caused you to be mislabeled earlier on...?  

Lots of folks who are 'borderline' swing back and forth across the line on the test depending on day and mood (mine is a constant wiggle between INTJ and ISTJ - not a broad range, i just fall a little to one side or the other of the centerline depending on the day). So now I am curious whether you changed a behavior, modified what's generally considered a wired-in stimulus response, or "were centerline on the stimulus, and changed an associated but falsely-linked behavior").  

If you're comfortable telling us more about that, I'd be really curious to know just what that looked like for you!   :)
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Extrovert here!

I used to be an introvert and I know they say people can't change. But I trained myself to go and talk to people - now I love it and thrive on hearing their stories and chatting them up!

I was INFP. Now I'm ENFP.
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Originally posted by Lisa_Who Lisa_Who wrote:

This is the funniest Myers-Briggs writeup I've ever read:






Oh my goodness...I'm

INFP-
Why you want one: They’ll read you poetry and rub your back while you fall asleep, they have the most comfortable beds. - Yes! I'm very proud of my comfortable bed!
Spoiler Alert: May suffocate you with intensity. (Not sure I'm that intense..) May cry during a commercial for McDonald’s. Baaahahahahahahahahahahahahahahah....this is so me! We went to see Mary Poppins Returns the other day and I was crying within 5 minutes (don't ask my why - I couldn't tell you!).
Where to find one: Getting existential at some dive bar with a small but intense looking group of people who all look remotely like someone who used to babysit you. (Actually probably more likely to be at home watching telly but hey, if you think I'm cool enough for this, that's fine)
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This is the funniest Myers-Briggs writeup I've ever read:





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Just as a follow up, I retook the test at 16personalities.com, and had SWMBO take it for the first time ever.

Me:
INTP-T
She:
ESFJ-A

I realize opposites are supposed to attract, but that seems potentially hypergolic.  I'm concerned that once the 'honeymoon' phase wears off (we've only been married 13 years) it could get explosive...

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Originally posted by bleustick bleustick wrote:

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Ah, the Teddy R.  I had a chance to be a plank owner on that one, but I would have had to re-enlist. 

Was on Cell Block 70 for some reason when it was at NAS Alameda and they called a security alert, so the guy I was with took me down into 2 MMR (where Marines fear to tread).  Spent the next 40 minutes or so sitting in EOS shooting the...breeze with the shutdown reactor operator.

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