Victimized by a Nasty Drive-by Review? Take Heart. |
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Holy crap. Are you mad at me? This is news.
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Oh, goodness. Seriously? I mean, seriously? Nothing on this board does more than amuse me. That's why I come here. This is recreation. The big emoticon was there for a reason.
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SEHBicycle
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Thanks for your thoughts, LaurieH. In reality, I'm not the victim on this one. A friend was. When I looked into the posts this person puts out, it's clear this is a reviewer with a chip on the shoulder. I can't imagine how I would have reacted in my first contest here if I got some of the "crits" this person is putting out. I get, exactly what you're saying, that they took time to read. When I IMd this person, I heard that person's views--points I paraphrased above. I can't know what's going on in their life; but I will call out bullying behavior when I perceive it. Thanks, again, for making your points, all valid. |
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Sorry!! Panic/paranoia attack!! Just trying to regulate my breathing a bit!! Please don't be offended!
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SEHBicycle
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I don't believe you've reviewed me, and if you have, thanks in advance, and I'll see it whenever I look at my post next. I chose not to name the writer whose pattern I saw in reviewing others. I IM'd that writer, and I felt like I was on the end of a massive 'writer-splaining' bad behavior away. I want this as a post for those who HAVE received drive-by reviews to take some hope away from their experience, rather than pain. Thanks for popping by. |
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chrissie0707
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I truly, really, and genuinely appreciate the positive vibe here in the forum, and the intention of these last few threads. But it is already causing in others what similar caused in myself last SSC.
There are a lot of forumites out there who are trying to giving positive, helpful, constructive feedback. And sometimes, when they see these threads, it sparks some anxiety that the thread was written about them. It happened to me last year, so I know it's a very real thing. I actually stumbled upon a thread about negative feedback in which I was singled out in comments as people tried to deduce who was responsible for the OP's concerns. (I wasn't, but still.) In short - it sucked. So while I COMPLETELY understand the intention, there ARE unwanted side effects of these types of discussions, where those super small few who are the issue aren't willing to read and get this message anyway, and some of those who are out there trying to help their fellow writers might end up feeling discouraged from doing so. Just some food for thought, in these general discussions. |
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God bless you!!
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SEHBicycle
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Thanks for that thought. I'll see if I can find a place to slip in near the top that I IMd a person whose pattern I saw in reviewing others. I've tested plenty years. Our rule was "2 is a coincidence, 3 is a pattern." Six, to me, cemented, a pattern. Thanks for giving me this perspective to undestand the complexity of trying to be supportive, and then having a gut-check side effect for other critiquers. |
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Lisa_Who
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HA, I just finished my Review These Now If I Haven't Already! spreadsheet and I know your name showed up on it as one of my reviewers...let's see what hellspawnish comment you threw at me... You need to tighten up your writing a little. HOW COULD YOU SAY SUCH A THING TO MEEE. (Well, you and at least 5 other reviewers. But that's irrelevant!) I'm sorry. I love semicolons. I love my ability to pile 100+ words into a single, yet STILL GRAMMATICALLY 100% CORRECT sentence. Because I think if I let two related thoughts be forever separated by a period, they'll both wither and die and I'll be left heartbroken? Seriously, this is like, the third post or something about harsh reviewers...I am sort of surprised I haven't encountered any yet. My story (as exampled above) did have some nice, glaring flaws that anyone could've used to mercilessly shred it if they'd really wanted to. |
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Edgelords are a bore.
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Thank you, Lisa_Who! I have no idea how I could've become so paranoid! (Although I do deal with clinical paranoia, so that could be a clue.) I just never want to hurt anyone's feelings! And on the same side, I never want anyone to hurt mine! It's all a tough balancing act! I flew into a panic and literally quit breathing. I'm sure everything will be fine once oxygen returns to my lungs!
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