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beckyrcollins
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"Turbulent (-T) individuals are self-conscious and sensitive to stress. They are likely to experience a wide range of emotions and to be success-driven, perfectionistic and eager to improve." I'm absolutely the -T as well. Doesn't work too well with ENFP, when you get all these ideas, don't see them through... then stress the f out because you're not *growing* as a writer. This has literally been me this week so reminding myself there's a reason for all the emotions is crazy cathartic! |
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Dekay
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I wish someone had given me these tips five years ago. I had to learn most of them through (I kid you not) recording observable human interactions based on my behavior. What happens if I straighten my hair as opposed to wearing it curly? (People take me more seriously with straight hair). What happens if I wear a skirt instead of pants? (More people opened doors for me or let me pass first in a skirt.) This list continues, but you get the point. Tip #3 is especially useful for us, thank you. I would like to add another tip: Befriend ENFPs. They are open to our unconventional behaviors, do not judge us as heartless robots, are a crutch in social settings, and they have a lot to teach us about the value of emotions.
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Lisa_Who
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OH, same here--all my tips and tricks (and I have like 20 more!) were learned the hard way. I wish someone had shared with me too...but you know, apparently, a lot of people don't even HAVE to consciously learn this stuff. :) They don't even know there is something to learn. It's a shocker when you realize that. I strongly suspect my best friend from college, who is still my very good friend! is an ENFP. They get a lot out of friendships with us too, at least, my experience with her leads me to think so--we're handy walking pocket references/encyclopedias, we are serious and sensible when they need that, and they think how our minds work is fascinating. :)
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Edgelords are a bore.
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beckyrcollins
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So. Many. Emotions.
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chrissie0707
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That's why I married one. |
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I'm INTP, but...
Or cut your hair really short. Works for me. I also wear a lot of black/dark blue. I have some dark red shirts, but jeans go with everything...
It's an interesting suggestion; Adolf Hitler practiced his gesticulations extensively in front of mirrors. Speaking of mirrors, it's amazing how few people own one; I have to assume this is the reason they take all those selfies - because they don't know what they look like. "Here's me in front of a white stone building" That's Jupiter's Temple in Split and was completed before the Edict of Milan made Christianity legal in 312AD, but the building isn't as important as the ME. Blech.
I do. "Why haven't you tried this blazingly obvious thing that would have solved your problem two weeks ago rather than churning over unrelated symptoms?"
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Lisa_Who
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The hubs is INTP, we understand each other very well. Though he thinks I'm a little too rigid and I think he's a little too indecisive. :)
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Edgelords are a bore.
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beckyrcollins
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cuuuute My SO's an INTP, a VERY interesting brain. He can look at any machinery and immediately like pick it apart and analyse it in his mind. Like how the pieces all connect to each other and what each individual piece does -- he SEES that. Complete wizardry to me. I'm pretty sure he'd say the same about my subconscious social skills though so we even out haha
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I can't speak for anyone else, but what's the point in a decision when SWMBO is going to change it for you? In the likely event my answer isn't the one she's looking for the consequences are swift. Far more efficient to do what she wants. There are areas and situations where I do what I want, but she's not involved in any of them. Classic example; we carpooled in to work today, so she was awake while I got ready: Decided which lights I should have on (not the lights I turned on)... Told me I was getting dressed in the wrong location... I was also preparing for work in the wrong order... She would have turned right at that intersection... ... ... ... |
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bleustick
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I had to retake the Myers-Briggs just to remember what I had, though it has changed a little over the years. I am an INFP-T, though I know I tested as INFJ in journalism school and narrowly as an INTJ in engineering school almost 10 years later. Now my INFP-T verdict is by a landslide on all traits, it seems. So I'm a "mediator." Not really news to me there.
Guided by principles, led by purity of intent instead of rewards or punishment. Isolated. Fantasy worlds fascinate us more than any other personality type. Seek and value harmony. And so forth. I am a hardcore introvert overwhelmed by crowds. I also happen to have anxiety and am empathetic to a dangerous fault, so I hit a lot of the stereotypes, I guess. Grew up quiet and weird and pretty much raised myself by books, easy with a librarian for a grandma. Plastered my walls with old printed out articles and images and drawings of natural and man-made disasters. Hindenburg, Chernobyl, Lusitania, Pompeii. I was an inexplicably gloomy guilty kid who genuinely believed all the wrong in the world was her fault and felt crushed by a spiritual debt for which she was constantly trying to pay. I still suffer from this a bit. Thanks to my mom being the hospital's IT, we had a computer and internet earlier than most. I developed a small fan base/community by blogging as a teenager (in ye olde days of LiveJournal) and finally had some friends, many who I met in real life. One took me to get my tongue pierced. Another took me to my first underground punk show. I attended another's survival party, a party to celebrate her resilience despite losing her rape case against a previous employer. I spent a lunch break with a Canadian Suicide Girl, who I'd known for years online, and her husband. The first birthday and Christmas presents I ever experienced were from cam girls (in the short-lived celebrity days of reality web cams that later inspired reality TV), slam poets, performance artists, alt models. I felt more connected and understood by these other people hundreds of miles away and generally at least 5 years older than me, than anyone I'd met in "real life." I am that play-with-your-dog, color-with-your-kid person at bbqs and parties. Get me drunk or high and I might jump on a table and recite slam poetry about a go-go dancer with tangerine hair that lives in a giant tortoise shell, but then I'm still gonna go take a nap or hide at the library for a few days. I can play it straight enough to serve tables for a living, before I started trying to do writing full-time. And to take the kids to various classes, activities, and events. But I would nearly spend my life in bed with a book if I could. Even in the Navy, I spent literally every second chain-smoking and reading on the smoke deck of our ship that I could. I can't make myself shut up when in a messaging/internet sort of format. But I'm practically mute in real life. It is what it is.
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